When Love Is There but Words Are Hard

Did a reading today that reminded me — oh yeah… both men AND women do this. What this? Pull back when they’re vulnerable (and someone is watching). Not because they don’t care, but because being seen when they don’t feel strong feels unsafe.

For people like that, action feels safer than emotional conversation. They’d rather fix the problem than be witnessed inside it.

But here’s where it gets tricky… That pullback can leave the other person regretting their honesty. Like, “Why did I say that? Why did I open up? ”And that’s the WRONG detour. That’s the rabbit hole where you start rewriting your worth instead of understanding their fear.

So if you shared from the heart and they went quiet…you’re allowed to feel the ache of that. The sudden hush. Just don’t turn it into a story about your mistake.

Shift the focus. Applaud yourself for loving bravely, and let them work through what being seen has stirred up for them.

You already did the courageous part. Now let calm do its part. You are making a conscious contribution to the foundational infrastructure of the essence of your relationship.

If anything, just simply focus on being that safe place for them when they are brave enough to be seen again.

Let your calm be what teaches them exactly where safety lives.